Imagine a life where you actually felt in charge. The feeling of being prepared and ready to take on the world doesn’t always come easy. I know I can’t be the only one who wants to create my life instead of having life happen to me. Life can be a never-ending game of catch-up, where you’re constantly juggling responsibilities, goals, and the chaos that seems to come out of nowhere? Well, you’re not alone. I’ve been there too, and let me tell you, there’s a way out of the chaos. It’s time to get your sh*t together and reclaim control of your life.
Understand that life is a journey and not all journeys can happen overnight. Life can be overwhelming and chaotic but taking control and aligning ourselves with our true purpose can bring amazing changes.
Step One: Assess Your Current Reality
Now this is going to be a REAL reality check. You may uncover some uncomfortable truths about yourself but that’s the point. A lot of times we are living life on autopilot and we don’t really know truly where we stand mentally, financially, and spiritually.
In order to do this, it’s time to ask yourself deep thought-provoking questions.
- What is my purpose in life and am I actively working towards it?
- Am I living a life true to myself or am I trying to meet others’ expectations?
- What are the things that truly matter to me and am I giving them enough attention?
- Am I making choices based on fear or love?
- What would I do differently if I knew I only had one year to live?
- How can I contribute positively to the world and make a difference?
- Am I holding onto resentments or grudges that are preventing my personal growth?
- What is no longer serving me?
- What are things in life that make me sad?
- How am I taking care of my body and mind?
- Am I taking risk and stepping out of my comfort zone to grow personally and professionally?
- How do I define happiness and am I actively pursuing it in my life?
Reflecting on these thought-provoking questions can help you gain a deeper understanding of your life and help guide you towards living the life you truly desire. You’ll contemplate your purpose, values, and passions, you will align your actions with your true self, rather than being swayed by external expectations. You’ll explore your fears, resentments, and limiting beliefs can empower you to overcome your season of stagnant energy.
Step Two: Shift Your Mindset
One of the biggest game-changers for me was shifting my mindset. I had to overcome limiting beliefs and negative self-talk and replace them with positivity and a growth-oriented perspective. The damage that we cause ourselves with negative thoughts and beliefs is one of the biggest hurdles we create.
Instead of saying:
“I’m not good enough”, say, “I am constantly growing and improving”
“I always mess things up” say, “Mistakes happen, and I learn from them”
“I’ll never be successful” say, “Success is within reach with hard work and determination”
As soon as you begin to recognize the negative thoughts you have about yourself, you’ll be able to alter those thoughts into something that is aligned with the true person you are wanting to become.
We cover mindset shifting in our eBook “Transform your Life”
One of the most important things to understand is that if you allow these thoughts to penetrate your mind, you will remain stagnant with just the hope of being better. It’s important to choose TODAY to leave those negative thoughts in the past.
Step Three: Create a clear vision and purpose for your life
Have you ever had so many ideas and plans but could never execute them? That is what we want to stop. Well, let me correct myself, we still want you to have all the ideas and plans but, we need a clear vision.
Without a clear vision, it’s easy to feel lost and directionless. Identifying my passions, values, and long-term aspirations helped me define a personal mission statement. With this vision in mind, I set specific and measurable short-term objectives that aligned perfectly with my ultimate goal.
- Self-Reflection:
- Identify your values: What principles and beliefs are most important to you?
- Explore passions: What activities make you feel fulfilled and engaged?
- What are your strengths? Learn to recognize your skills and talents.
- Define Long-Term Goals
- Establish both personal and professional goals
- Break down larger goals into smaller more manageable steps
- Prioritize goals based on significance and feasibility
- Create a Vision Statement
- Summarize your ideal future in a concise statement
- Include aspects related to career, relationships, personal growth, and more
- Ensure it reflects your values and long-term goals
- Set Specific Objectives
- Define short-term objectives that contribute to your long-term vision
- Make objectives measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART)
- Stay Flexible and Open to Change
- Recognize that goals and priorities may evolve over time. It is okay if your vision changes during your journey to self-discovery
- Adapt your vision to align with new insights and experiences
- Develop an Action Plan
- Break down objectives into actionable steps
- Create a timeline for achieving each step
- Regularly review and adjust your plan as needed
- Surround Yourself with Support
- Share your vision with an accountability partner
- Seek guidance and feedback to help refine your goals
- Build a support system to help you stay motivated
- Cultivate a Growth Mindset
- Embrace challenges and view failures as opportunities to learn
- Continuously seek ways to develop and improve
- Practice Mindfulness
- Stay present and appreciate the journey
- Regularly evaluate your progress and make adjustments as needed
- Celebrate Achievements
- Acknowledge and celebrate milestones along the way
- Use achievements as motivation to persist in pursuing your vision
Make sure you understand that creating a vision and purpose is an ongoing process. Regularly revisit and refine your goals as you navigate through life.
Step Four: Time Management and Prioritization is KEY
Time is a previous resource, and I realized I needed to manage it wisely. By evaluating how I used my time and learning to prioritize tasks, I gained control over my schedule. Implementing effective time management techniques allowed me to make room for what truly mattered and achieve a sense of balance. I use the Ultimate Life Notion Planner to organize my entire life and keep me honest on where I spend most of my time, money, and resources. Check it out!
Step Five: Building healthy habits
I know I can’t be the only one who feels like my healthy eating and exercising habits are the first to suffer when I feel like I have too much on my plate. Taking care of my physical well-being became a priority. Regular exercise, proper nutrition, and a consistent sleep routine became the foundation for my newfound energy and productivity.
Building and sticking to healthy habits are important, but it’s just as important to develop healthy coping mechanisms to manage stress and cultivate a peaceful state of mind.
Step Six: Get an accountability partner and find your village
As much as we try to be independent, no one can do it all alone. That is where your need for an accountability partner comes in. I try to surround myself with positive, like-minded individuals who uplift, inspire, and motivate me. This can be a bit challenging because I am such a private person who is very introverted. It definitely takes me out of my comfort zone.
Final Thoughts…
You are more than capable to turn your life around. I know life can be… A LOT. It has its ups and downs and loops and at times it feels like you’re barely hanging on. But understand, that life is a journey. Every journey is different, every path taken can lead to a different destination. Choose the life and the path that you deserve.
I know there is a lot of information that was given, but these are just a guide when you feel like you don’t know where to start.
If you’ve read through this post, you have taken a big step which is deciding that some sort of change needs to happen. Change happens on your own terms and at your own pace. If you want to take your transformation journey to the next step, take a look at the “Transform your Life” eBook. It has over 100 pages and endless resources to truly help change your life. Let’s change our lives together!
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