You clicked on this blog post, so you must be questioning your happiness or at least trying to see if there is anything you can do to improve it. I’ve been there. My life lacked contentment. No, I didn’t just wake up and say, “I’m not happy”. It wasn’t until I was having a heart to heart with a friend and she asked me if I was happy. I stalled before answering that I didn’t know. At that moment, I knew I needed to re-evaluate my life.
Having lived through multiple seasons of unhappiness, I understand that being happy isn’t as easy as it should be. I also understand that a big part of lack of happiness is about choices and mindset.
The main difference between those who are happy and those who are unhappy is the difference in habits and choices made. No need to complicate things. Those who are happy, do more things that give them a sense of joy, while those that are unhappy tend to do more and dwell more on things that do not bring them joy.
So, if you find yourself in a place where you don’t know how to answer the question “are you happy?”, you have to look at your habits and see what changes you can make to increase your happiness.
Now that you understand that happiness is well within your grasp, here are 10 things that happy people DON’T DO.
Happy People Don’t Dwell on the Past
I know it’s not easy to let things go but, that’s what happy people do.
I’ve come to understand the power of the present moment. Instead of fixating on past mistakes or regrets, draw lessons from them and channel your energy into creating a positive future. Embracing the now has opened up new possibilities for a more fulfilling and contented life.
Happy People Don’t Compare Themselves to Others
You are not them and they are not you. Your experiences are not the same. Your journey is not the same. Understand that life is not a competition, and everyone is on their own individual journey.
Constantly measuring myself against others only led to feelings of inadequacy and envy. I’ve learned to appreciate my unique qualities and achievements, recognizing that everyone’s journey is different. Finding joy in your path without the need for constant comparison will be liberating.
Happy People Don’t Hold Grudges
Forgiveness is a powerful tool for happiness. Extremely happy people choose not to hold onto grudges, recognizing that harboring resentment only weighs them down emotionally. By letting go of negative feelings, they create space for positivity and growth.
Also, understand that forgiveness is never for the other person. Forgiveness is for you to be able to move forward. When we hold on to resentment, the only person we hurt is ourselves, not our transgressor.
Happy People Don’t Seek External Validation
Why do we do things so other people like us? Why do we do things so that other people are comfortable with us? Happiness isn’t solely dependent on the opinions of others. Extremely happy individuals have a strong sense of self-worth and don’t constantly seek approval from external sources. They find fulfillment in their own accomplishments and values.
Happy People Don’t Worry About the Future
While planning for the future is essential, excessive worry about what might happen will rob you of the present joy. Embracing uncertainty and focusing on what you can control will allow you to approach the future with optimism rather than fear.
Happy People Don’t Overcommit Themselves
One word…. BOUNDARIES!
One word you need to learn and be okay with using is the word NO!
Let’s say it together, N-O, NO!
Maintaining a healthy balance in life is crucial for happiness. Extremely happy individuals avoid overcommitting to responsibilities, recognizing the importance of self-care, hobbies, and relaxation. This balance contributes to a more content and fulfilling lifestyle.
Happy People Don’t Hold on to Negative Relationships
Positive, supportive relationships are a cornerstone of happiness. Extremely happy people prioritize nurturing connections and are willing to let go of toxic relationships. Surrounding themselves with people who uplift and inspire contributes to their overall well-being.
Happy People Don’t Rely Solely on Material Possessions
Having stuff is great, but understand, it’s just stuff.
Material possessions can provide temporary pleasure, but they are not the foundation of lasting happiness. Extremely happy individuals appreciate nice things but understand that true happiness comes from experiences, meaningful relationships, and personal growth.
Happy People Don’t Live in Fear
You are fearless. Fear of failure, rejection, or the unknown can be paralyzing. Extremely happy individuals face challenges with courage and resilience, viewing them as opportunities for growth. By embracing fear, they open doors to new possibilities and enrich their lives.
Happy People Don’t Neglect Self Care
At some point you need to prioritize yourself. Why not start today. Do something you love.
Taking care of oneself is a fundamental aspect of happiness. Extremely happy people prioritize self-care, recognizing the importance of maintaining physical, emotional, and mental well-being. This commitment to self-care ensures a more balanced and fulfilling life.
Final Thoughts…
You have to choose happiness. Choosing happiness is healthy. Recognizing where you could use improvement and making the choice and doing the work will completely change your life. While the pursuit of happiness is a personal journey, these 10 “DON’TS” offer valuable insights from the lives of extremely happy individuals. By incorporating these behaviors into your own life, you may find yourself on a path to greater joy and contentment. Remember, happiness is not a destination but a journey—one that you have the power to shape and define for yourself.
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